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First off, the term
"safe sex" is misleading. Unfortunately, there is
really no such thing as safe sex, unless you are not having
sex at all. Since it's such a basic human drive, and abstinence
has yet to catch on with the majority of us, we now have what
we call "safe sex."
This involves making
sure you don't swap body fluids that may be infected with an
STD. It is really quite a simple concept. Keep all mucous membranes
(that is, parts that secrete body fluid) away from each other,
or protected by a barrier like a condom, glove or dental dam.
This includes eyes, mouth, and cuticles as well as the penis,
vagina and anus. When it comes to toys, just follow the concept
above:
Don't
swap fluids. Slip a clean condom over toys before
you use them, and use a fresh condom when switching orifices
or partners. Yes, sex can be dangerous and even deadly. But,
it can also be a wonderful, life-affirming experience, if you
follow a few common sense guidelines.
For most people,
the peace of mind they experience from practicing safe sex is
their motivation to continue doing so. Please remember: These
are only very basic guidelines, and we are not doctors. We are
not responsible for anything you do as a result of reading/viewing
the information on this page.
For more safe sex
information, you can always contact your physician or visit
your local clinic.
1.
Use a barrier. Usually, this is a condom. Condoms
may protect both of you from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)
as well as unwanted pregnancy. If used correctly, they are very
effective, around 97%. They must be used correctly, though!
Other barriers include dental dams, gloves and even Saran Wrap.
2.
Use lubricant. It will reduce friction, whether caused
by a condom or "bareback." This reduces possible abrasions
for the receiving partner. Abrasions can allow viruses and bacteria
to enter the body more easily. Only water-based lubes are compatible
with condoms. Oils will break down the latex from which condoms
are made, so be careful.
3.
Get tested. Often symptoms don't show up until the
STD has done quite a bit of damage. An STD can become a major
health problem, so don't put off getting tested. You can do
so at your gynecologist, family planning clinic such as Planned
Parenthood, or your regular physician. Clinics may offer anonymous
or sliding-scale services.
Currently the most
common STDs are: venereal/genital warts, gonorrhea, chlamydia,
herpes, syphilis, and HIV/AIDS. (You might have to go to a separate
facility to get the blood HIV test.) Bacteria where it shouldn't
be can cause certain types of vaginitis, so if you suspect that,
speak up.
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Use your head Don't put yourself in compromising
situations. Do be responsible, and share your pleasure with
consenting adults who are sober, safe and sane.
More
On Methods Of Contraception
Contraception as
a method of not only preventing pregnacy but preventing sexually
transmitted diseases (STDs) is an essential responsibility of
both partners in any sexual relationship.It is our belief that
contraception should ALWAYS be used when having any sexual encounter
EXCEPT in the case of a couple who is actually trying to get
pregnant. Most common known forms of contraception are categorized
below and discussed in detail. Use this information to learn
which forms of contraception are right for you, most effective,
and what kinds of combinations of these methods you can use
to minimize your risk of pregnacy or contracting STDs. There
can also be moral or religious implications of some of the contraception
methods, however we choose to present all forms of contraception
without moral or religious bias.
Please note that
the failure rates of the contraception types listed below is
given in a percentage, both for ideal (perfect usage) and typical
(actual statistical usage) situations. This is your chance of
becoming pregnant if you have regular intercourse over the course
of one year's time. For example, if you have regular intercourse
with someone every week for an entire year using condoms as
your contraception, with ideal use your chance of pregnancy
is 2.0% and with typical use it is 10.0%. Calculating failure
rates for certain combinations of contraception such as using
both the pill and condoms can be a little tricky, so we've not
included those. However, combining certain forms of contraception
to maximize effectiveness is always a good idea.
General
Methods
No
Protection
Abstinence
Withdrawal
Rhythm Method
Medical
Methods
The
Pill (female)
Emergency Contraception (female)
Gels and Foams
Genital
Devices
Condom
(male)
Female Condom
Cervical Caps and Diaphragms (female)
IUD (Intrauterine Device) (female)
The Sponge (female)
Surgeries
Vasectomy
(male)
Tubal Litigation (female)
General
Methods
No
Protection - Failure rate: 80-90%.
No protection simply
means having sexual intercourse or contact without any form
of contraception. Obviously, choosing this option will result
in your greatest chance of becoming pregnant. Only couples who
are actively trying to get pregnant should have unprotected
intercourse. There's simply no excuse otherwise. Guys, if you
really think using a condom takes THAT much away from the feeling
and insist on having raw sex, then go home and jack off. It's
a lot cheaper and takes a lot less time than raising a child.
Let's compare: Cost of raising child: Estimated $200,000 for
18 years. Cost of jacking off: Free. Time required to jack off:
Anywhere from 30 seconds to an hour. Time required to raise
a child: 18 years. Ladies, don't let any guy convince you to
do something you are not planning to do or are not comfortable
with. No man is worth compromising your values for. And vice
versa.
Abstinence
- Failure rate: 0%.
Abstinence is complete
restraint from sexual intercourse. It is the only 100% effective
form of contraception and STD prevention. While sex can be a
lot of fun between two people who love each other, abstinence
is the wisest choice and often the right one for couples who
do not want to risk pregnancy.
Withdrawal
- Failure rate: 20-30%.
Withdrawal, also
known as coitus interruptus, is when a male withdraws his penis
from the female's vagina before he ejaculates. This is the most
common form of birth control used by younger people who are
ignorant about how the human body works. One reason why this
form of contraception is not very effective is because several
thousands of sperm are often present in precum, the thin clear
liquid which oozes out of a penis during high arousal and especially
during the friction of intercourse. Another reason is because
often the man won't pull out before some ejaculate is left in
the vagina. Pulling out before ejaculation is not only ineffective
in preventing pregnancy, but it can be very frustrating for
both partners, especially the male. Ladies, never let a guy
convince you to have unprotected intercourse because he says
he will "pull out." First of all, it's not very effective,
and second, he may not pull out in time or not at all anyway.
Rhythm
Method - Ideal failure rate: 10%. Typical failure rate: 15-25%.
Also known as the
safe period method, this is another less than effective contraception
method. The idea is for the couple to have sex at a time during
the woman's menstrual cycle when she is not ovulating and not
likely to get pregnant. There are several ways to discover this
"safe time" however they usually must be taught by
a family planning professional and there are a lot of variables
that must be considered and understood. Younger people and those
less conscientious about contraception may use other forms of
this method such as having sex right before or during the female's
period. This is because most woman tend to ovulate in the middle
of their cycles. This isn't always very reliable, however.
Medical
Methods
The
Pill (female) - Ideal failure rate: 0.5%. Typical failure rate:
2%.
The pill is a prescribed
hormonal medicine that prevents pregnancy in most cases by preventing
ovulation. It contains progestogen and estrogen. While this
method is extremely effective, a decrease in this effectiveness
can come from several things. For one, the woman might take
the doses irregularly, forget doses, etc. Another problem might
be taking other drugs that decrease the pill's effectiveness.
Side effects that cause vomiting or diarrhea can also decrease
effectiveness. For more information about taking contraceptive
pills, please see your doctor.
Emergency
Contraception (female) - Ideal failure rate: 1%. Typical failure
rate: 3-5%.
This form of contraception
is known commonly as the "morning after pill" and
can be obtained by prescription up to 72 hours after unprotected
intercourse. This pill is hormonal medication that prevents
a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus. Four pills are
taken, two immediately and two more 12 hours later. This pill
is basically the same as normal contraceptive medication, however
the dosage is much higher so some adverse side effects like
nausea and vomiting can occur. Like all medical forms of contraception,
this pill does nothing to stop STDs. If you are interested in
this option please see your doctor.
Gels
and Foams - Ideal failure rate: 5%. Typical failure rate: 15%.
Gels, foams, jellies,
and creams that contain spermicides work as contraceptives by
killing sperm. They shouldn't be relied on to prevent pregnancy
alone but should be used along with other methods such as condoms
or diaphragms. They can also be used with the sponge method,
although contraceptive sponges are not terribly effective and
have been discontinued from widespread production. Most spermicides
contain nonoxynol-9, which can offer limited protection against
STDs as well. some people can have allergic reactions to nonoxynol-9
and thus should use other contraception methods or find spermicides
with other active ingredients.
Genital
Devices
Condom
(male) - Ideal failure rate: 2%. Typical failure rate: 10%.
The condom is perhaps
the most common form of contraception. It can also be fairly
effective against both STDs and pregnancy, if used properly.
Most condoms are made of thin latex rubber, but polyurethane
condoms are also available for those who have allergic reactions
to latex. It is unrolled on the man's erect penis to contain
ejaculate during intercourse. Using one carefully and properly
is extremely effective to maintain their effectiveness. The
man should hold the condom at the base and withdraw immediately
after ejaculation in order to keep semen from spilling into
the vagina. Condoms should never be reused. Only water-based
lubricants should be used with latex condoms because oil based
lubricants break down the composition of latex.
Female
Condom - Ideal failure rate: 3%. Typical failure rate: 10-15%.
First introduced
in 1992 as "Reality." This is a loose polyurethane
condom designed for the female to insert into her vagina before
intercourse. It has a wide open ring at the bottom and a smaller,
closed ring at the top that is designed to fit over the cervix.
It is effective against pregnancy and STDs but because some
women may not learn how to insert them correctly before they
have intercourse with them, they can fail.
Cervical
Caps and Diaphragms (female) - Ideal failure rate: 2%. Typical
failure rate: 10-15%.
Unlike condoms, cervical
caps and diaphragms (pronounced "diafram") allow semen
to enter the vagina, but they prevent it from entering the cervix,
traveling up the uterus, and fertilizing an egg in the fallopian
tube. They are made of small round pieces of latex rubber that
fit securely over the cervix. Caps merely fit over the cervix,
while diaphragms cover the cervix and are held in place by bracing
against the pubic bone. They come in a few different varieties.
They must be fitted by a doctor or nurse and take some knowledge
and practice in order to be used effectively. They are also
usually used with spermicides to increase effectiveness. The
caps and diaphragms must be inserted prior to sexual activity
or intercourse and must remain in place for at least 6 hours
afterwards. They're relatively durable can last years if properly
cared for. While they have some drawbacks, this is a suitable
contraceptive option for women who are unable to use pills for
whatever reason. Once again these need to be purchased and fitted
by a doctor, so if you are interested in this method please
see yours.
IUD
(Intrauterine Device) - Ideal failure rate: 1-2%. Typical failure
rate: 4%.
IUD's are small,
t-shaped, plastic devices that are inserted into the uterus
by a doctor. There are 2 types, those containing a thin coil
wrap of copper, and those containing progestogen. They generally
prevent pregnancy by creating a hostile environment in the uterus
for fertilized eggs and in the case of the copper variety, sperm
as well. While they are regarded as highly effective, they have
some possible side effects such as infection, spotting, cramps,
acne, and tenderness. They can last up to 5 years. See your
doctor if you are interested in this method of contraception.
The
Sponge (female) - Ideal failure rate: 5%. Typical failure rate:
15-20%.
The sponge is a small
spongy ball with a string attached that is meant to be inserted
deep in the vagina before intercourse and prevent semen from
reaching the cervix and uterus. It is often soaked in spermicides
to increase effectiveness. While widespread production of contraceptive
sponges has been discontinued, it is still available in some
areas and some women still swear by its use. It is not highly
effective but does provide much more protection against pregnancy
than using no protection at all.
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Vasectomy
(male) - Failure rate: 0.15%.
A vasectomy involves
a simple outpatient surgical procedure in which the male's vas
deferens are clipped. The vas deferens are the small tubes that
carry sperm up from the testicles to the prostate. After this
procedure, the man can still ejaculate and orgasm, however no
sperm is present in his semen. The only possibility for failure
exists if the man has unprotected intercourse within a few weeks
after having the procedure, as some sperm can remain in his
semen until then before it is all "flushed out." There
is some discomfort shortly following the procedure, however
this is by far the simplest and most effective form of permanent
contraception available for the male.
Tubal
Litigation (female) - Failure rate: 0.04%.
This involves a surgical
procedure in which the fallopian tubes of the female are cut
and cauterized. This prevents sperm from reaching an ovum, and
prevents an ovum from traveling into the uterus. The woman will
still continue to menstruate, and after healing has occurred
little decrease in sexual enjoyment is felt. Conception can
still occur if an ovum has passed the point of litigation before
surgery and intercourse takes place, so women who have had this
operation are advised to use other protection if they have intercourse
before their next menstrual cycle after the operation.
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